It's August 4th 2011 and about 1:20 am. I just gulped down 20 ounces of an iced latte drink so I am up, and I mean really up. The norm with these things is to blog everyday, which is a huge commitment so it gets kind of hard to do so. But I am writing early this morning for I feel I must. I want to discuss briefly a crucial topic today; dating. I know, I know totally cliche. Hey, it's late or early, however you want to think about it, and so a lot is racing through my mind.
First things first: ladies, and gents, in the dating world today, it is hard to find a decent, mature, and committed partner. Take it from me; I have been on many dreadful dates and through heart breaking and un-fulfilling relationships. I have seen it all, From manipulative bastards, to sex addicts and the sexually frustrated. Let's just say that sitting in a tattoo parlor for 5 hours with a narcissistic dumb ass is not my cup of tea. Hey, some girls might like the egocentric little man complex. If it works for you, it works. Bottom line is, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince or princess....and that's putting it nice and simple. If you feel discouraged, at the end of your rope, and at a loss of hope for the good in the opposite sex, then you may want to keep reading.
By now, you catch my drift. My dating experiences have sucked and I know that I am not alone in this mayhem. As a young adult, I feel the pressure to have a partner, someone who is constantly by my side to cuddle with, go to the mall with, introduce to the folks, yatta yatta yatta. Seeing best friends with long time boyfriends and girlfriends, dropping the "L" word, and talking of marriage and children, really adds to the pressure. Know what I'm talking about? If you are reading this, you probably do..or did at one time or another. Point is, the pressure builds as time goes on. But you know what they say, the more eager and desperate you are, the harder it is to find true love. As mom always tells me, "It will happen when you least expect it. The right guy will come along." It takes the edge off just a little bit, but as I continue waiting, the clock ticks and I get older. (I don't think this advice will work for me when I am 30 ma!) I suppose love has no time limits or age caps. Point is you have to be patient, but bold in the act of love.
No, I'm not saying drop everything for the first guy or gal who asks you out. That would be settling. What I am saying is don't be impatient like me, and never throw in the towel. It is crucial that you don't end up with someone who is going to drag you down and be sure that the other person wants what you want. Are they committed? What exactly do they want from you? And last but most important, don't be a straggler. This is way easier said than done but don't get "trapped" in a bad romance. Basically, try not to fall in love with or get caught up on the wrong person. He or she can become like a poison, a drug even that you need. I speak from experience and yea, it's hard to not love the guy or girl who is completely wrong for you. Buy hey, you have to begin somewhere. To go up, you must be down first right? Corny I know but hold on just a little longer.
Similarities in values and life goals is a must must for a thriving relationship. The person must help you grow to be all that you can be while encouraging you to stick to what you believe. Do you hold on to Christian values such as saving yourself for marriage? Fine but you better be sure the person feels the same way or else one of you is going to compromise who you are as a person...usually the one with that belief. If you don't that is cool too, but still you need to be sure that the other person is loving and respectful of you. Pretty straightforward I suppose, but we don't usually recognize these things in the heat of the moment.
Alright, I know this is long but I just don't want you guys to go down the same road I did which led to heart break and a period of feelings of despair and loneliness. I can't prevent it from happening to you, but I can give my advice. Truth is we all have been or will be hurt by someone we love and put our complete trust in. Just remember this, do not let it ruin you for the next one...the person who might just be the one for you. Let the heartbreak be a lesson to you...a sort of empowerment if you will. You have to experience sorrow in order to feel pure joy after all. When you are hurting, take the time to heal, no matter how long it takes but please do not use it as a crutch. I mean you can miss out on the love of your life if you host a pity party for yourself. (Hurt people hurt people) :/ I've been there but I picked myself out of it because I know there is a prince charming out there for me, my own version of whatever the hell that means and there is a prince/princess out there for you guys too. Of course, one who fits you perfectly. No matter what or who happened in your past, it is the past for a reason. Let the maker take care of that and you deal with the present. So, don't give up on love because as hard as it is too see in this world, love will not give up on you.
Alright, it's late and that caffeine is wearing off! I gave you my little Nicholas Sparks rendition of the love speech. Read it, discuss among your friends and peers, reflect, do what you want with it. Comment please! Oh and keep it real out there and be strong! Keep dating and being yourself and love will find its way at the right time. Everything always works out in a timely manner. Peace everyone. Good night! <3
More to come in the next blogs: World news: Somalia famine. National news: President Obama, National Debt and Congress's decision, Other life stuff....
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